When I Was Young, I Was Married to a Chinese Woman
I have been married to my wife for eight years.
She was a native Chinese, and I’ve met and dated many other people of Chinese descent.
We are both English speakers, so I can understand why some people in our community are uneasy about Chinese people in America.
As a foreigner, I can’t understand the cultural divide.
It’s an old problem, and it’s going to keep on being an old issue for a long time.
I also don’t understand why there are so many people of Asian descent in our communities, or why Asian Americans are not more vocal in calling out injustices that have been happening.
This past year has been a good one for Asian American voices in the media, thanks to the work of Chinese Americans who’ve worked tirelessly to educate the public on the issues of inequality and racism in our society.
So why aren’t more people speaking up about these injustices?
I want to be clear, there’s a lot of work to do.
We need to take a long, hard look at how we define and promote Asian Americans, especially when we look to our own ancestors and the legacy of the Chinese immigrants who built our cities and our institutions.
And while we have a long way to go, I know that there are many Asian Americans who feel as though the way things are is no longer acceptable, and that we must come together and take back our country.
But I don’t want to just blame the white people of our community, because I’m also a white person of Asian and Latino descent.
I don, either.
I’m proud of my heritage and my roots, and the struggles and challenges I’ve been through, and for that I am grateful.
But there are also people of other races who are still waiting for the spotlight to shine on their experiences.
The challenges we face have been inescapable for many years.
We’ve seen the rise of “fake news” and “fake narratives” that promote divisive messages about people of color.
We have seen a rise in bullying, violence, and hate crimes.
The media has been complicit in perpetuating these harmful narratives.
And yet, we have been able to come together as a community, build institutions, and engage in positive dialogue with our fellow Americans.
In this current moment, Asian Americans face more pressure than ever to be visible and vocal.
For me, it’s even more important to be a part of this conversation than I was in 2015, when I first met my wife, but I’m confident that as we work to address issues of racism and inequality in our country, I’ll be able to continue to do so.
We’re all still here.
I think Asian Americans have the ability to do better.
In the coming months, I want you to join me in writing letters, sharing stories, and calling your representatives to demand change.
If you live in the US, please email your representatives in support of my petition to urge them to pass my amendment.
We can all take steps to improve our community.
Asian Americans in America are one of the most underrepresented minority groups in the United States.
There are only about 25,000 Asian Americans of color in the entire United States, and we’ve been struggling for decades to be represented in our own communities.
But now is the time to step up, and let’s take our voices back.
You can read more of my story here.
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